This weekend our family drove on the Jackie Robinson Parkway in New York. We asked Lady C (our 5 year old) if she knew who Jackie Robinson was because we previously told her about him and wanted to see if she remembered the history lesson. She said he did something in football (cue her father rolling his eyes) which we corrected to baseball. Then we told her he was the first black person to play major league baseball.
She paused a little and Aisha asked… “Do you know any black people?”
Lady C confidently said “NO”.
Ok… so, we asked if she knew any white people and she named several of her classmates and explicitly excluded a black girl in her class … let’s call her “Kelly”. We asked her what Kelly was and appropriately, she said Kelly was … a brown person… aha!
Lady C said: “She’s brown like me and you and daddy!” At this point, we didn’t realize that she left someone important out…
So we used the reference to brown people to explain that when people refer to black people they are talking about brown people whose ancestors are from the African continent. We had to have some discussion and correction there because she thought it was riiiight next to America. We let her know “Africa’s far”! Then came the interesting part… she said that Lady H was not black. She was a white person because she was tan like white people…
And then she asked us if allllll brown people are black people.
It ended up being a wonderful conversation about the fact that black people whose ancestors come from Africa come in all sorts of wonderful colors of brown ranging from the color of her little sister, all the way to the color of her mommy. We also told her that some brown people come from all different parts of the globe and not all brown people are black people…
It shed light on the very important and often overlooked fact:
Talking about race is NOT easy!
When people want you to simplify things they say, “Explain it like I’m a 5 year old!” But ACTUALLY explaining race to a 5 year old is not that simple! In fact, we had to draw from a bunch of different sources to get the point across:
- From Mulan, the movie (to explain ancestors)
- From Crayola (for the names of different skin tones: tan, brown, etc)
- From her classmate (to give examples of non-black)
- From genetics (to explain why Little Sister looks different from the rest of the family)
So clearly race shouldn’t be treated like it’s an easy topic. Maybe more people would get along if they didn’t treat race like it was a black and white issue…literally!