Incest, Gay Marriage and Arranged Marriage: Convo With A Five Year Old

Lady C: Mommy did you know that girls can marry girls and boys can marry boys?
Aisha: I did know that, where did you learn that?
Lady C: Pre-K… I can’t remember which classmate. So that means I can marry a girl if I want to?
Aisha: You sure could. You should marry someone you love.
Lady C: Great, so does that mean we can get married?
Aisha: No… you can’t marry a member of your family.
Lady C: So I can’t marry grandma either?
Aisha: Nope.
Lady C: Fine. I will marry a boy. Mom, can you find me a nice boy to marry some day? I don’t think I will be able to find a boy to marry.
Aisha: I sure will. That would be my pleasure.
Lady C: You’re the best mom.


And…. that was a conversation I had with Lady C the other night out of the blue. Lately she is quite intrigued with family compositions and particularly intrigued by gay and lesbian families. I was not surprised that she mentioned she learned about different families in her Pre-K class because her school embraces diversity in all respects including family composition.

It’s an interesting discussion though and layered because first she starts with the idea of marrying someone of the same sex. But when I told her she should marry someone she loves, her mind immediately went to family which I thought was ADORABLE!! That’s what love is to her… family. Best part though, her asking me to find her a husband – ha! I’m keeping this blog forever so that when she brings home that person that I don’t approve of when she’s 22 I can tell her that I have right of refusal… I hope she buys that.

Anyone else having conversations with their little ones about family composition and marriage? What would you say if your child asks if they can marry someone of the same sex. Are you ready to have that conversation? 


17 thoughts on “Incest, Gay Marriage and Arranged Marriage: Convo With A Five Year Old

  1. First, I am in LOVE with this blog. Lady C is amazing! It’s interesting how their minds work. The kiddo just now understands that mommy and daddy are married NOT brother and sister. I had to break out the wedding pics to explain it all. If she were to ask who should could marry, I would say anyone as long as they love each other (and all that other stuff that makes you get and stay married). Her father wouldn’t. We have very different views on marriage and family compositions. I am currently working on changing his views….I meant we are currently having thoughtful, married discussions about why I am right and he is wrong 😉

    • thegreeneblog1314 says:

      Thank you for the compliments on the blog! I love that your daughter thought you were siblings… that is hysterical. The way their minds work. Did you ask you why she was not invited to the wedding when you pulled the pictures out? Ha! Work on dad… little by little 🙂

      • She wanted to know if she was in my tummy. I wasn’t sure how to take that…was she saying looked fat in my wedding dress? LOL!!!!!! I told her that was when we started practicing!!! 😉

  2. Ms. Ro says:

    You handled that with such accuracy and without flaw!! Look, how one question covered so many issues..Well done.

  3. awesome! It’s good that you’ve documented that she asked you to help her find this boy to marry. Cause when you try to tell her when she’s 16… boop – here goes the blog.

  4. thegreeneblog1314 says:

    Point is – we have the same kinda thinking!!! USE THIS BLOG AS EVIDENCE *muahhhhhhhaaahaahahaaaa*

  5. MsNay says:

    My child thinks that marriage between all adults is nasty because they kiss. She is however aware that marriage can between a man and woman, two women or two men. The later two seem to confuse her. I just simple tell her that when people love each other they share their love by getting married. When she asks if she will get married I tell her when she’s an adult and finds someone she loves. When she asks if it will be a boy or girl, I tell her that will be her choice. However, I like the idea of me picking the boy or girl.

    • thegreeneblog1314 says:

      By the way MsNay… Lady C asked if she can marry your daughter and then she said you were one of her three mothers….

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